But I've learned that living a life in competition with other people is not healthy. I don;t even believe in the phrase "healthy competition". Because if it is truly healthy, then it is not competition at all. Succeeding through competition is shallow. You will never be truly happy if you live your life in competition with other people because you will always compare yourself with others.
Do not compete with other people, instead compete with yourself. Always ask the question, "Did I outdone myself this time?" Try playing a game on your cellphone, whatever game that may be. Who's high score appears on the stats? Yours isn't it, use that high score as a standard of your abilities. So let's assume you scored 500 on snake (Sorry I don't know that latest game on mobile phones nowadays so bear with me I'm sure you're getting my point). Next time you play you have to beat your score. You have to set your own standards, and surpass this standards. This logic applies to life.
Set your own standards, set your goals according to your own standards and not according to the standards of the world. If you do the latter you'll always feel emptiness inside you because you are not living your life on your terms.
While it is true that in order to thrive you have to go with the flow, it is also important to go with the right flow in order not just to thrive but to be truly happy with your life, because at the end of the day that's all that matters, right?
-If you want to lose weight, do it for yourself not because the world dictates that women who have a Barbie body are the only ones that are attractive.
-If you want to pass the board exam, do it because you know you are good and you deserve the title, not because mom and dad told you so, or your school expects you to.
-If you want to buy a car, do it because you need a car not because your neighbor just bought one.
I could go on and on, the list will be endless. Again, don't compete with other people. Compete with yourself, and you will be the best of the person that you ought to be. That's all that matters.
"In the end, what matters is 'Did I love? Did I live? Did I matter?" - Brendon Burchard
